How to be Lazy Once a Week, and Why
It's no secret to my friends and family that I love being comfortable, dareisay, Lazy. I could rock my PJ's for my whole lifetime if that was socially acceptable. Every day, I look forward to snuggling up in my bed with my cat and relaxing. But society, I've noticed, tends to condemn laziness, or what I like to call "extreme leisure" because its synonomous with unmotivated. Even dreaming of it, is often looked down upon. Are the two really that intertwined? You know, maybe sometimes this is true, but more often than not, it's hardly the case. I would consider myself a motivated, hard working woman, but also insanely lazy. And you know what? I'm totally okay with that. I love it. Label me lazy, please! It's something I've embraced about myself, and in a really healthy way. So much so, that I've incorporated comfort, leisure, and laze into my brand. I WANT people to love being home and enjoying their space so much, that they don't ever want to leave it. Hell, I encourage it. Do the work you need to do for yourself, but I implore you to take a day out of every single week, to enjoy your home, your space, your posessions. Give them love once a week. Give yourself love, once a week. It's honestly easier said than done, because it needs to be prioritized. For me, I schedule it. I'm not even kidding.
Every time I travel anywhere in the world, I'm reminded that America has a profound vendetta against laziness. It's strange, because it seems to bleed into every area of life. I know for me, balancing my life takes a lot of work. I am an assistant to an artist here in Portland, I run my own business which includes being my own photographer, marketer, maker, designer, bookkeeper, and more. I also have two pets who need constant love and affection, a house that needs tending to, a social life that needs love and maintenence, and a fiancee/family that requires time and attention as well. I'm usually extremely happy to do all of these things, but sometimes, like anyone, I feel really overwhelmed and I buckle. Who wouldn't?! It's a lot! So often times, I'll be sitting at the dinner table with Daniel, and I'll be recounting what I need to do that week, or worrying about what didn't get done, or what order needs to be shipped ASAP. Obviously then, during the days, I am excited by the prospect of a day wherein I get to do absolutely nothing. But still, the guilt follows me, because there is always something that needs to be done.
Having traveled a bit, I've also noticed that many other cultures outside of the United States do not view life this way. The French are able to enjoy a meal for hours with good company. Italians are skilled at savoring every single drop of a good glass of wine. Thailanders are some of the happiest, most comfortable people I've ever met, and my Thai friends were so content to sit by a waterfall instead of going to work, even if it was a shop that they owned and might lose money that day. Those friends in particular did not feel like they were 'losing out', rather I vividly remember them saying that it was equally as important to sleep in their hammock.
I'm pretty sure our guilt ridden system isn't going to hold up. A lifestyle change--or even a cultural change--needs to happen. What if everyone was okay with just going slowly? What does that even mean? To me, going slower means to slow down my thoughts and my intentions. For example, instead of attempting to balance my entire life every single day, I'm going to give myself ONE DAY A WEEK where I do zero. No chores, no work, no creating, no social life, nothing. I'll walk my dog, and that will be the only item on my 'to-do' list. And then I'll relax in whatever way I want, all. friggin. day. And no guilt is allowed, either. One of my favorite quotes reads: "If you're able to do absolutely nothing on a given afternoon, you've mastered happiness."
Our once per week resting system has been working for me because I'm an introvert and I need time to recharge, or else I'll become crabby, irritable, angry, and resentful. Giving myself a day a week, I'm able to restart the creative juices, unblock a lot of pent up energy and stress, and just treat myself to a day of simple luxuries. Spending time alone, with my animals on my bed, is something I never take for granted, because I'm allowing myself to experience true calmness together.
I hope you are able to find what works for you, and to pass the lazy vibes along.